October 11, 2026
Today we are observing “Coming Out Day” which is observed every year on this day, October 11. To recognize it in our worship is to acknowledge the importance of members of the LGBTQ+ community in our midst and in the wider world, and to offer a special welcome to those members of that community who have been ostracized or traumatized by religious communities in the past and also on behalf of our fellow Christians, past and present, to lament the harm that has been and is done in the name of Christianity, and to repent of our own actions and those of our denomination and wider Anglican Communion.
Such an observance is especially important now as we have seen new attacks on the LBTQ+ community and especially on those who are trans. While it is heartening that in our diocese, a Trans priest has been called as Dean of the Cathedral of All Saints in Milwaukee, in the wider culture trans individuals are increasingly marginalized and vilified.
At first glance, or on a superficial reading, today’s parable might seem perfectly suited for an occasion like today. It’s the familiar Parable of the Wedding Banquet. In Matthew’s version, a king throws a wedding banquet for his son and invites all of the usual guests. When they send their regrets, he sends his servants out into the city to invite everyone in to fill the banquet hall. It seems to be a parable of welcome and inclusion, appropriate for a Sunday such as this.
But not so fast. When you pay attention to the details, the parable becomes quite problematic, even, dare I say it, offensive. Let’s recall the context. Remember, Jesus is teaching in the temple during the last week of his life. The week began with what is called the Triumphal Entry into Jerusalem, which we commemorate on Palm Sunday. That event is immediately followed by Jesus’ entering the Temple and overturning the tables of the moneychangers. The next day, Jesus enters into debate with the chief priests and Pharisees, who question his authority and, we’re told, want to have him arrested but fear the crowds because of his popularity. It’s then that he tells the parable we heard last year, of the wicked tenants who killed the landlord’s servants and sons.
As I was preaching this at the 8:00 service, it occurred to me that in Luke’s version of this parable a verse appears that has had powerful impact in the Christian tradition. In Luke’s version, the master tells the slave “Compel them to come in.” St. Augustine of Hippo used that proof text to argue for the Roman Empire’s forcing heretics and schismatics to join the Catholic Church, and to punish them if they didn’t. That’s hardly a message of inclusion, is it!
Today’s parable follows that one and it shares some of the same details. Again, it begins with Jesus saying “The kingdom of heaven is like this…” Remember as I have said repeatedly, when trying to make sense of Jesus’ parables, look for surprising, even inexplicable, behavior. And there’s plenty of that here. First of all, a king throws a wedding banquet for his son and sends out invitations. Now, if you’re invited to a royal wedding banquet, in what universe would you send your regrets? I mean, it’s the party of the year, the party of the decade. We probably can all still call to mind the royal weddings of Harry and William, right? Who was there, what the guests were wearing, Bishop Curry’s sermon at Harry and Meghan’s weddin.
But the bizarre behavior doesn’t end there. When the king extends the second invitation to the same A-list, instead of politely saying no, the invited guests kill the servants who have brought the invitations—Huh? What’s that about? In response, the king lays waste to the city.
So now he sends his servants out again, (into a destroyed city, I suppose) and invites everyone else, “both good and bad,” to the feast. So far, so good, perhaps.
But then comes the incident with the man who is attending without a wedding garment. Again, consider the situation. The slaves invited everyone whom they encountered to the wedding banquet. Presumably, the banquet was about to begin. Where was the guy going to rent a tux at the last minute? In its original context, Matthew may have intended this bit of the parable to be directed precisely at those who weren’t prepared for what was to come, or as a reminder that the community gathered in the name of Christ may have been inclusive, but it also required certain ethical behaviors. We’ve seen such insistence earlier around the instructions concerning confessing sins and community conflict.
It’s not a reassuring message—we love to say “Come as you are” and “All are welcome here.” We want to be inclusive, welcoming, all those positive things. But let’s face it. Following Jesus has consequences, requires commitment, demands of us that we grow into his image and likeness; that we follow his teachings. And some of that, much of it, is hard. It was hard for Jesus’ first followers; it was hard for the community to which Matthew was addressing his gospel. It has been hard for Christians down through the centuries.
It is hard now. Bearing witness to inclusion and welcome when our government is detaining, killing, and transporting immigrants and refugees can be dangerous. Bearing witness to inclusion and welcome when LGBTQ+ individuals are again marginalized and trans people are scapegoated by politicians and the wider culture is unpopular. Advocating for a nation and community where all—people of color, immigrants, LGBTQ+, are able to flourish, to express themselves, to participate in our democracy and our cultural institutions can have consequences. The fact that the pride flag that flew from our tower sign was torn down repeatedly until we hung it out of reach of passers-by was a nuisance, but also a reminder of the environment in which we live.
A few months ago, as I was standing outside the church greeting people, I was confronted by a man who decided to share with me what he thought the bible had to say about homosexuality. I listened to him patiently before entering the church to begin worship. As he harangued me, I thought about asking him if he was going to be going to church that day, or if he thought it unnecessary. Rather ironic, don’t you think, that he felt comfortable quoting scripture to me but didn’t seem to think it important to participate in Christian community.
From time to time, I’m reminded of the struggles the Episcopal Church endured in the years after 2003 and the election of Gene Robinson as our first openly-gay bishop. It was a long, painful road to full inclusion of LGBT+ people in the life of the church and the authorization of same-sex marriage. There are those in the the wider society who would even now welcome the reversal of those gains. And there may be some among us today who wish we wouldn’t talk about such matters, that it is unseemly to do so.
But as followers of Jesus, as the body of Christ, we are called to extend God’s love and mercy to all human beings, to embrace them in their diversity and difference, to offer them space to flourish and grow. As Paul writes in 1 Corinthians, all are members of the body of Christ, and the body needs all of its members. The presence of LGBT+ Christians in our community creates a stronger, more resilient, more creative body that bears witness to God’s grace and love. Thanks be to God!
