The Myth of Closure

An interview with Nancy Berns, author of Closure: The Rush to End Grief and What It Costs Us. Berns argues that closure “simply doesn’t exist. While grief can diminish over time, there is no clear process that brings it to an end – and no reason that achieving this finality should be our goal.

People are told they need closure whether we’re talking about bad relationships or terrorist attacks, so it’s a wide variety of issues. We also see closure become an essential part of sales talks, whether it’s in funeral, grief, or relationship advice industries, as well as a political argument for issues ranging from the death penalty to memorials … .Closure really has saturated our popular culture … because it’s an effective way to sell ideas and to sell politics and products. As a result, people have come to believe that they do need closure.

 

Remember “Blessed are the cheesemakers”?

A column on Monty Python’s Life of Brian and the blasphemy law in England.

Here, Life of Brian remains as subversive as ever. If not an overt attack on Christianity, the film is devastating in its satire of religious behaviour. Blasphemy is parodied in the famous stoning scene. Just as pointed, in its own way, is the depiction of a would-be disciple who thinks that Brian will heal his wife’s headache because “her brother-in-law is the ex-mayor of Gath”. The scene in which Brian flees from a crowd of would-be worshippers manages to encapsulate the whole history of religion in around three minutes.

More links on Islam and Islamophobia

The cousin of the Ft. Hood shooter has started an anti-terrorism foundation.

Andrew Sullivan points to this chart from a Brookings Institution study of American values after 9-11:

What it means: If a Christian (say Anders Breivik) commits an act of terrorism, only 13% of Christian Americans identify him as Christian. If a Muslim commits an act of terrorism, 44% of Muslims identify him or her as Muslim. In other words, Americans operate with a double-standard, refusing to accept that Christians can do despicable things (“they’re not really Christian”). But of course our faith proclaims that we are all sinners in need of forgiveness.

Patheos identifies the top ten (+1) Islamophobes.

On the other hand, Eric Trager reports on the high percentage of Arabs who don’t believe Al-Qaeda or Arabs perpetrated the 9-11 attacks.