January 18, 2026

For just about the last decade, I’ve been meeting regularly with an ecumenical clergy group. Its membership has changed over the years but there’s a core group of us remaining from when I first joined. As you might imagine, over that time we have gotten to know each other very well. We talk about issues facing our congregations, sticky pastoral situations that would benefit from an outsider’s perspective, and the big things—changes in our society and religious involvement. But we also just hang out. Sometimes, there’s no agenda for our meetings and we find ourselves. Being a clergy person can be extremely isolating and having a group of people with whom one can share one’s struggles safely and openly is a godsend. Over the years, we have developed deep relationships that are profoundly life-giving.

No doubt many of you have similar groups of friends or family with whom you regularly spend time. For some of you that community might be right here at Grace Church.

I was thinking about such gatherings as I began working on today’s sermon, for in it we see Jesus inviting would-be disciples, not to take up their crosses, but to stay for a while. We often take such groups for granted but the reality is that many people don’t have communities like ours; they’re isolated and lonely, without friends or family and sometimes seek connections online that can become toxic.

There’s a lot going on in these few verses. First of all, in some ways it’s a parallel to last week’s gospel reading in which John the Baptist baptized Jesus. It has all the same elements, except for one very important thing. There’s no mention of Jesus’ baptism! There’s much more I could say about this but I want to focus on other things.

For one thing, I want to point out something I hadn’t ever really considered before—the significance of John identifying Jesus as the “Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world.” That language is so familiar to us, to me from our liturgy—that its strangeness and uniqueness had never crossed my mind. It has a place as one of the fraction anthems used at the breaking of the bread in the Eucharist, and musical settings of it are very common and familiar. But this is the only use of this language in all of the New Testament.

I can’t unpack all of the possible significance of this language here but what I do want to point out is that there’s a connection with the crucifixion, especially in the gospel of John’s timeline. You may recall that in the synoptic gospels, the last supper is presented as a Passover meal. However in John, Jesus’ trial takes place on the day of preparation for Passover and his crucifixion on the Passover itself suggests John is thinking of Jesus as the Paschal lamb. 

That’s a curiosity, worthy of deeper reflection, but I want to draw our attention to what comes next, John’s version of the calling of Jesus’ first disciples. 
You may recall the story of Jesus calling the first disciples from the synoptic gospels, especially Mark. Jesus is walking along the shore of the sea of Galilee. He sees Peter and Andrew, James and John repairing the nets on their fathers’ fishing boats. Jesus says to them, “Follow me and I will make you fishers of people.” The four get up, leave the nets, the boats, and their fathers behind, and follow Jesus. 

There’s a completely different dynamic here in John’s gospel. In the first place, Andrew and the other disciple (We never learn his name, by the way) are already disciples, but of John the Baptist. John and his followers come across Jesus in their wanderings, and John points Jesus out to them, saying, “Look, there’s the Lamb of God who will take away the sin of the world!” The next day, the same thing happens, and two of his disciples, follow Jesus. Jesus asks them, “What are you looking for?” And they respond oddly, by asking “Where are you staying?” To that question, Jesus answers, “Come and see.”

“Where are you staying?” What kind of question is that? What might the disciples learn about Jesus by staying with him for the day? To understand what’s going on we need to put this question, and the event itself, in the context of John’s gospel. Staying… to use the traditional language of the Authorized Version, to abide… is one of those themes that is repeated throughout the gospel. In fact, we heard the theme sounded already in John’s testimony about Jesus. When he reports that he saw the Holy Spirit come down like a dove, he says that “it remained on him.” In today’s gospel the words is used at least four times in quick succession. Much later in the gospel, in the lengthy farewell discourse that John puts in Jesus’ mouth at the Last Supper, he says, “Abide in me as I abide in you.” 

These two questions, “What are you looking for?” and “Where are you staying?” get at the heart of what the Gospel of John understands by discipleship and the nature of faith. More than that, these two questions, and the understanding of discipleship they open up, invite us to a new understanding of what it means to follow Jesus in our present day.

Discipleship is a word we use a great deal in the church but is easily misunderstood or distorted. Indeed, to the extent that it is a grounding metaphor for the Christian life, it can be as misleading as it is helpful. For one thing, we often think that faith, our Christian life, is primarily concerned with knowing a certain set of ideas, or holding a certain set of beliefs. But note that Jesus did not ask Andrew and the other disciple, “What do you know or want to know?”, or “What do you believe? He asked them, “What are you looking for?” Or perhaps, “What do you want?”

Posed in those terms, Jesus’ question gets at the very core of our being, our deepest desires and hopes, who we are and what we want to be. It’s a question of identity

And the question Andrew poses to Jesus in response, while seemingly unrelated to Jesus’ question, is very much of the same nature. “Where are you staying?”

Andrew’s question is an expression not of a desire to receive a set of instructions, or learn a set of doctrines. Andrew wants to be with Jesus. He wants to stay with Jesus so that he can experience the relationship that Jesus offers him. By abiding with Jesus, by staying with Jesus, Andrew will begin to experience the abundant life that Jesus talks about throughout the gospel. 

Thus for John, discipleship is about relationship, not right doctrine or the transmission of a body of knowledge. Discipleship is about being in community with Jesus, and with others who seek to follow Jesus. And there can be nothing more important than that, being in community in these uncertain and frightening times. 

In all of this disruption and disorientation, negotiating a path forward is perilous. We’re not quite sure what to do, how to act, how to be in the world. Here’s where this gospel reading offers a model. Relationship—abiding with Jesus. In the first place, we are called to open our hearts and our lives to deepening relationship with Jesus Christ, and through that relationship begin to experience and to live in the presence of God’s love for us. To open our hearts to Christ’s love is to begin to know the love of the God who became one of us and loved us and the world so much that he gave his life for the world.

And as we open ourselves to Christ’s love, experience Christ’s love, abide in Christ’s love, we also will begin to open ourselves to those around us, to others who experience that love of Christ and abide in that love. 

All of this is quite abstract and you may think it has little to do with our daily lives. But I wonder. In the midst of all that we have to do, do we take time to be with Jesus? Do we take time to be fully present to our loved ones? Do we really know our fellow members of the Body of Christ in this place? What might it be like for us to nurture deeper relationships with each other and with Jesus Christ in the coming months? What might it be like for us to take the time to get to know one another better, to listen to each others’ stories, to their hopes and fears? By nurturing those relationships, with Christ and with each other, not only would we be strengthened for the journey but the world around would catch a glimpse of the possibilities of new life in Christ’s love.